Overcoming self-doubt…

Empowering Yourself: Conquering Self-Doubt

Everyone is born with something akin to confidence. We see a newborn assert its needs and wants very quickly, navigating the world with curiosity and assurance. However, as we grow, external opinions and personal experiences erode this innate curiosity and self-assurance. The influential figures in our lives, whether parents, grandparents, or others, play a pivotal role in shaping our self-perception. We often mold ourselves to fit their expectations, seeking approval and connection. We come to believe their distorted love language and the limiting beliefs it brings to us.

To break free from self-doubt, it's essential to understand and overcome these ingrained fears. Let's explore practical steps tailored to help you reclaim confidence and lead a more fulfilling life.

1/Uncover Limiting Beliefs

The first step in conquering self-doubt is identifying your limiting beliefs. Take a closer look at what holds you back, and with this awareness, begin reshaping your mindset.

2/ Transform Your Self-Talk

Feelings and the self-talk they bring are part of our inner guidance system. The trouble is we often have feelings and self-talk that come from past experiences that we project onto the present… and these aren't always true.

Feelings aren't facts:

You don't feel good enough.

You don't feel like you deserve it.

You don't feel like you're doing enough.

Just because you feel it doesn't mean it's true.

Words shape our reality, both spoken and thought. Challenge your limiting beliefs by changing your self-talk. Engage with your inner critic, disputing negative thoughts until it transforms into your inner champion. Talk with yourself the same as you would someone you care for.

3/ Prioritise Your Desires

Overcoming self-doubt involves prioritising your desires over fears. Shift your focus from the fear of failure to the potential rewards. When the desire for success outweighs the fear of missing out, your life can elevate from the ordinary to the extraordinary.

4/ Cultivate Supportive Connections

No one navigates life alone. Seek inspiration from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Embrace peer elevation by distancing yourself from negative influences and surrounding yourself with positivity and support.

5/ Take Decisive Action

Confidence is reflected in decisiveness. Move beyond contemplating how to overcome self-doubt and take action. Put aside excuses, limit seeking endless advice, and work towards tangible goals. Start small; every achievement builds confidence and diminishes self-doubt.

6/ Foster Resilience

In any transformative journey, setbacks are inevitable. Recognise that setbacks are part of growth. Those who conquer self-doubt distinguish self-doubt as a manifestation of fear. They extract lessons from failures, demonstrating resilience by getting back up and persevering.

Self-doubt is the killer of our potential. When we doubt ourselves, it doesn’t matter how much talent or potential we have and how many people are encouraging us… if we don't believe, it's going to be hard to accomplish. .

Overcoming self-doubt and becoming forward moving and creative means your past no longer has to equal your future.

Tip: A practical way forward to explore… ‘Assume the identity of the person you want to become.’

‘You become what you give your attention to’ - Epictetus

Together, let's navigate the path to self-empowerment, cultivating resilience and dismantling self-doubt for a more confident and fulfilling life.

Men’s Counselling - Scarborough Filey

www.menscounselling.co.uk

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